I did look into this more, to try and find more specific information about stats and whatnot. Firstly, hulking_troll, you are correct that it likely would have been easier to give the astral mage in the situation you stated the disenchanting skill. Disenchanting specifically says it can be used from astral space to deactivate foci.
On the other hand, I couldn't find rules for damaging foci to force them to shut down... Reaver, do you have a source for your information? If I had to come up with a rule, use the Foci's Force in place of any Attribute, and I would actually use a normal "Condition Monitor" using 8 + half Force boxes of health (although I could be talked into 6+ like drones).
I would also say that Foci that are deactivated due to damage can't reactivate until the damage is healed. As we are talking about Astral damage, not physically breaking the Focus, it repairs itself over time (like one box per hour).
A rule like this would mean that using spells to damage a Focus would be effective, but not easy. And also wouldn't be a permanent drain on the affected mage (no permanent focus loss without full disjoining). I feel like there are rules for this though (at least prior to 4e, but I don't have easy access to books older than 4th).