Physical Mask and the Masking metamagic will (assuming the opponent doesn't pierce the illusions) work to show your enemy the image you want; Physical Mask on the physical, and Masking on the astral.
The problem is that the Physical Mask spell itself is still visible on the Astral. To hide that, you need Extended Masking, as Dr Meatgrinder said.
However, seeing the Physical Mask on the astral does not break the illusion! Of course, it might tip off the astral viewer that something is amiss, but he still sees you as the Physical Mask/Masking dictates. Furthermore, he can't see that you have the spell "Physical Mask" active. What he sees is that you have a spell active; and, with 2 hits on the assensing test, that it's an Illusion spell. There's no threshold at which he sees the exact spell, so that will always stay hidden.
Now, if you want to appear mundane, having an Illusion spell active on you is problematic, to say the least. You still show as a mundane black woman, but you'd have to explain why you have an illusion cast on you, and who did it. So for that particular application, it might not be worth it. In other situations it'd be hard to explain too, unless the opponent wouldn't be surprised seeing an active spell on you.
[Edit] Oh, by the way, besides (Extended) Masking, there's also a spell line in (I believe) Shadow Spells (might be Street Grimoire) that allows you to change magical auras. It's the only Illusion that works in the astral, and I'm pretty sure you can use that to hide the aura of Physical Mask and itself. (Not sure what it's called; the area version is called Manascape).